Tracend

I never really got the grasp of what means to have kids – most likely because of the distorted perception people have about the subject.

Most people say “I want kids” but that is totally irrelevant. In fact becoming a parent is like taking on a professional role, and like any other job it requires qualifications, dedication, will to succeed and a long-term goal.

Just saying that you want kids is like saying “I want to be an astronaut”. Can you actually be a good parent? Do you have the time and commitment to do it for many years to come and do you know what you’re getting in return for your effort?

I bet if people seriously considered all those questions, half of them would second-guess if becoming parent is what they really want. But we are so brain-washed with the idea of having kids, that everyone thinks that they SHOULD have them.

Biologically its understandable. Procreation is the means for the survival of the species and it comes as a basic need to leave offspring. But as far as I know the human race is multiplying in a bigger rate than the planet can handle, so controlling our hormones is probably a good thing.

And on a personal level, a parent sees the children as the continuation of his/her existence – but are we all ready to accept that most of the problems in families are generated from this need to control kids on that level? And since when was it a guarantee that the kids will be the same as their parents – that rarely happens…

And another thing that I realized… In the business world, it’s totally fair for companies to treat their employees differently if they have kids:
- Men are treated better because they know that being parents will make them make less risky decisions and thus are more predictable-controllable.
- Women with kids are dismissed or downgraded because raising kids is a profession on its own and thus their job becomes a part-time thing in their lives.

Segment from:
“Things are the way they are for a reason”